5 questions the traveller in me hates.

I’ve been ‘travelling’ (well working abroad) now for nearly 3 years. That’s a long time and in my book, I would class that as long term. Wouldn’t you?

I made the decision for me because to be bluntly honest, I didn’t know what else to do after graduating university. All I knew was that I had a real desire to see the world. Cliché I know!!
I get asked a lot of questions that quite frankly I hate answering. I simply can’t make people understand my choices. They will always be baffled by them but you can’t win them all I suppose;

I bet it’s not just me, more than likely all travellers will have been asked these 5 questions at some point on their journey.

Just let us figure it out on our own time and when we’re ready, the added stress of being asked these doesn’t help when there’s a big wide world out there to see.

1. Are you not afraid?
I mean let’s get this one straight. It is scary at first but more exciting. Going into the unknown and not having a clue what you’re doing but once you do it, it becomes normal. It starts becoming routine the more you move around. So now, I don’t feel afraid anymore, I’ve done it before. I can keep doing it. Plus you’re never really alone once you get out of your comfort zone and just do it!

2. How do you afford it? “You must come from a rich family”
Every single piece of travelling I have done. I have done for myself. I have paid for myself. I absolutely do not come from a rich family. I just prioritise my money and don’t blow it. I treat myself occasionally and I can be terrible at buying things I don’t need. But when I go into shops now, I see something I like and think for a moment ‘do I really need it.’ Most of the time the answer is no so I just don’t buy it. But I know what I want and that’s what I will spend my money on.

3. When are you coming home?
I don’t know the answer to this. I always say this. I like to live in the moment. Where is home exactly? Right now, it’s Spain. Where will it be in the future? I don’t know. Let my feet do the wandering and I’m sure I will find my way home one day wherever that may be.

4. Isn’t it time you settled down?

I’m 25. Yes, it would be nice…one day! To have my own place and a more stable lifestyle and more money than I do now and when that opportunity arises I’ll take it. But in my opinion, I think I’m right where I’m supposed to be. It is something that I look into often though all because I want my own place with my own lamps and rugs and pictures.

5. Why are you wasting a degree you studied hard to get?

I get this a lot. I am NOT wasting my degree. Just because I haven’t gone down the path that my degree is in doesn’t mean I’m wasting it. I just lost the passion for it and found my passion elsewhere in travelling and teaching. That’s not a bad thing. I’m educated and I’m using it in a different way by teaching abroad. Without it, I wouldn’t be able to have this lifestyle I have now.

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20 Comment

  1. I also ask myself the “settle down” question.. but the wild keeps calling me!

    1. I know the damn the wild haha

  2. Oh these are completely relatable – and I am a Generation Xer traveller (in my 40s!)
    I get this a lot – especially the settle down and have kids remark…to which I get annoyed because no-one knows myself better than me…so I wish people would just be happy for me. I think they’re jealous – we’re not harming anyone after all.

    1. It’s got to be jealousy right? I mean I’ll do all those things in my own time. I wish people would just understand that.

  3. I can totally empathise with this!! I feel your frustration! I am 36 and so many people seem to think there must be something wrong with me for the fact I travel alone and choose to do so! Even some people in my home country of the UK which is even worse!

    “You’re so brave” is something I’m a bit sick of hearing to be honest even though I know its meant in the nicest possible way. They wouldn’t say that to a man though I’m sure…..

    I agree with the comment above – they must be jealous 😉

    1. I’m from the UK too and I find that people there find it strange in comparison to other countries. It’s like never heard of before. I wonder why that is?

      Agreed they wouldn’t say it to a man. Which is annoying because we are more than capable of being independent people in another country. You just have to be open-minded and easily adaptable to cultures and you will be more than fine I feel.

      Thanks for reading

  4. Great post! So relatable. Whenever I’ve gone somewhere alone I get 1. A LOT! Often I then get a reply of “I couldn’t do it!” When I say it’s exciting more than scary! ?

    1. It’snso much more exciting than scary. My first solo trip was amazing! But people need to have the strength to do it first and once they do it they will realise that freedom.

  5. I am so on the same page with you on this one. I get these questions at work every day. I came to terms just to ignore them. Glad you posted about it. I’ll bookmark so when they ask me I can resend this link.

    1. Yeah it kind of goes over my head now but after 4 years, family are slowly learning to stop asking haha

  6. I’m 25 and, like you, I honestly believe that I am where I’m supposed to be. I also believe that following our passions make us feel more alive and human. Same feels <3

    1. Yeah, I have no regrets with what I did, I have had some amazing experiences. I believe I am where I’m supposed to be right now. But always bring on the next chapter I say.

  7. Completely understand. It’s so strange to be so immersed in the world of travel and realize that other people aren’t. Sometimes it’s just hard to explain to others how important travel is.

    1. Yeah, I find it hard. On one hand, I want to tell people back at home about it all because every experience is amazing but then I don’t want them to think that I am bragging about it all. I feel secretly judged by them although some clearly just come out with what they think before you even get home and basically cut you out of their lives but each to their own. Just shows who your friends are. All because I didn’t stay and have a mediocre life in my small town but that’s a different story (ooohhhh a new blog post idea perhaps?) It’s a great bubble to be in especially when I get to connect with people like yourself. Thanks for reading!

  8. I absolutely hate number 2 and 4. I hate when people ask that. Especially about the money, like no, I save my money and travel is more important to me that materialist objects. That is why I can afford to travel. It’s so frustrating hearing those questions because people assume the worst. Thank you for sharing!

    1. Yeah, I feel like people secretly judge you for having this lifestyle and think that we are super spoilt but it is not the case. Every single trip I have paid for myself. I have pretty much sold everything I own to do this but I feel like my life is no longer cluttered like it was. It feels great now and so many experiences and memories which give me more joy than materialistic items do.

  9. You have plenty of time ahead of you 25! I just turned 26 haha and I’m already feeling old and trying to plan more trips ;D. One of my biggest regrets was not being able to study abroad while in college.

    1. I know but sometimes you can’t help feel certain pressures of life. I agree, it was always something I wanted to do too, to go to America and study for a Semester but I don’t know whatever stopped me looking back now.

  10. I can relate to all of these frustrating questions! The money one really gets to me when it comes from my peers are drinking $10 pressed juices everyday hahha. Thanks for sharing this! Keep doing you!

    1. Haha this made me laugh. I couldn’t be spending that kind of money on a juice. Thank you and you too!

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